Do you ever wonder? Is love the greatest thing that could had happen to someone? The grown ups will shake their head and told you not to believe in enduring pain and misery for the name of love. Love love love. It seem such an easy word to act upon.
Do you believe love is unconditional? Without expectations? I could not find any love that comes without a bit of expectations on how your another half should be like. Or even from your parents. Don’t they expect you to be good and achieve success in your life? There’s expectations, even though we may not end up being how someone (parents or a lover) intended us to be.
Tell me sweet lies when love can be blind and without conditions. I’ve seen guys and girls alike searching for that pretty/handsome face that they can adore for the rest of their lives. A face changes over time but no one bothers about that. It is easier to love the perfect look than having to settle for some ordinary faces. What do they know about loving someone from the heart? And tell me truthfully, can you love someone that has nothing? The idea has been implanted in our minds passed down through the generations, to choose a partner with stable career and a good family background(preferably middle class to wealthy status) to avoid unnecessary hassle much later in life.
It’s a terrible thread of life structure, where more and more people choose to be single rather than loving someone ordinary. I’m not pointing fingers to all singles out there with the same assumption but rather speak in general manner. We tend to be more choosy, which of course, our every right to do so. Just look at the divorce rate. The married couple made their promise at the altar to keep the wedding vows sacred. How long and simple it is to break the vows? Less than a minute of putting down a signature on the divorce paper. No wonder people opt to live together instead. The reason is to try out if they can tolerate and live harmoniously under the same roof. But really, is this a solution?
The question is what’s the difference of marriage and living together? Will couple work harder because they can break any time and there is a sense of keep trying if they are living together rather than being married and face the ugly consequences of the same old routine?
In the end of the day, it boils down to couple’s effort to stay together and communicate their differences and compromise. Only then, through sincere love, the couple can grow maturely and comfortably together.
*originally drafted on 27 February 2012